Today I was taken back to my former life as a family lawyer. I wasn’t wearing a suit, holding a dictaphone, time recording, or giving advice to a client. However, I gave the same advice I would have back then, nonetheless.
Read MoreWhen someone questions your parenting without knowing the circumstances, it ignites a firestorm in the pit of your stomach. It is a red hot flame which you struggle to put out and when you finally do, it continues to smoke for a long while after. It is a mother’s scorn.
Read MoreOne day we will be in their shoes.
Our body will be less able, things will take longer and we will need to plan more.
We will rely on others to help us, we will have more time in the day to do what we need to but less time in the years to do what we want to.
Read MoreMy heart broke as I saw the pain in your eyes and your quivering lip. I felt helpless and sorry. Even though you were a complete stranger, I wanted to help you through your darkest hour.
Read MoreSometimes I can’t wait to hand you over, just for a moment, so I can mop the floor, hang the washing out and have a cup of tea.
Sometimes you don’t want to go into the arms of another but I need it, just for a moment, so that I can have my independence, you can learn to trust and someone else can benefit from your cuddles.
Read MoreWhen you look in the mirror you see things you sometimes don’t want to. ⠀ The tummy boldge,⠀
The stretch marks,⠀
The dimples peeping out from the bottom of your shorts.⠀
You decide to make your physical health a priority.⠀
You don’t think about changing the mental aspects of the problem.
It’s a natural response.⠀ ⠀
We all feel vulnerable sometimes. ⠀ During the long nights that rid us of our sanity.⠀
The challenging days that test our patience like no other.⠀
The moments of self-doubt about all aspects of our parenting which kick us when we are down.
Read MoreTo the lady we passed on the street today, thank you.
You smiled at her and then you smiled at me. I didn’t know who you were but it made me warm inside. She was the trigger but it didn’t matter. I reaped the rewards too.
Read MoreWe had a good day today (she says with hesitation). There were few cries, uninterrupted sleeps and big smiles from both of us.
We were due a good day (she says with a little less hesitation). It has been a week of endless cries, interrupted sleeps and no smiles from both of us.
Read MoreI never thought I would be the type of mum that I am. I worried that I wouldn’t give my child enough, that I was ill-equipped and that my career would remain the biggest threat to my overall life balance.
Read MoreWhen we are young and vulnerable we are looked after without question.
People go out of their way to make sure we feel safe, love and protected. We are the future. We don’t know it yet, but everyone else does.
Read MoreWomen who talk about negatively about other women are often jealous.
Women who don’t support the success of other women feel threatened.
Women who go out of their way to make other women feel excluded are insecure.
Read MoreIt was not a phrase I had heard before until I stumbled across Sophie Young’s Instagram bio. It is an affirmation of what I strongly believe in, namely, to work hard to reach my goals and be in control of my destination.
Read MoreSunsets used to be shared by just the two of us. We could sit in silence and bask in the beauty of the purple, orange and yellow pallet smeared above the horizon. We didn’t do it often but when we did we never complained. It is a beautiful time of the evening in every possible way.
Read MoreI am about to tell you something
It’s in the pipeline
It’s important
You need to know the background
Bear with me
But relax, it’s not some sort of endorsement.
Read MoreWhen I look at these sticks underneath me , I am reminded of my varicose veins. I have a number of them. Like purple spider webs they continue to grow on the part of my body I like most, my legs.
Read MorePhotos are amazing things.
They capture a moment in time, an expression, or a mood. They can help diarise important moments, be the trigger you need to take you back to an earlier time and a discussion point from generation to generation.
Read MoreI realise it is no longer Christmas but hear me out, I make a point.
I never really know what day it is anymore. The days merge into each other, there is no real structure and certainly no shortage of laundry.
Read MoreYou are Australia
We are New Zealand
Although separated by water
United we stand.
We have had our history
Not all has been great
We quickly forget that
There is no room for hate.
Read MoreYou do everything for everyone during the day.
You organise, you prepare, you clean, you cook.
You do everything for everyone at night.
You comfort, you shush, you allow your husband to sleep.