A special bond

There can be a loneliness in motherhood.

But not of love.

The days are filled with the best kind of love.⠀

The loneliness comes from missing other adults, and mature conversations.

Your days become dictated by the needs of those who hang off of your every breath.

Plans that have been made months in advance are often put on hold, because children are sick, or too tired, or you have everything else you still need to catch up on since last week because of the same.

Staying home is often easier, even though not seeing another adult throughout the day, or outside of work, can be immensely hard.

In this season you find yourself craving connection more than any other time in your life, even though you have never felt so connected, or in love, before.

Friendships are so needed. So valued. So much of your motherhood.

But they are not the conventional type anymore.⠀

It’s friendships formed through forgotten nappies, meltdowns in the mall, and your overfriendly child.

It's friendships built on lukewarm coffee, biscuits from the packet, and messages sent at all hours of the night.

It's friendships lasting through missed coffee dates, conversations cut short, and never enough time.

All friendships are special.

But you hold these ones particularly close to your heart during this time in your life.

It's knowing that someone else just gets it.

It’s knowing that someone else may be able to help you piece together parts of your sentences you may have forgotten in the fog.

It’s knowing that your children have another mother in your formed sisterhood.

It’s a lot of things,

But most of all it’s the comfort that comes from knowing a friendship has been created from a place of such shared vulnerability during some of the hardest days of your life, a place where you have no energy to be anyone but yourself, a place where you are accepted exactly as you are and in all forms.

This is why some of the greatest friendships are formed in motherhood.

And why many of these friendships last forever.