Normalising Normal

Not loving every moment of motherhood is normal, but so too is loving them more than anything through it all.

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Not being a picture of calm every minute of every day is normal, but so too is carrying on as best as you can afterwards.

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Not looking after yourself as much as you know you should is normal, but so too is caring for everyone else so much that you put them before you.

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Not always being able to fight the tears when you are meant to wipe theirs is normal, but so too is needing the consoling more than them sometimes.

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Not being an enjoyable, fun and supportive partner all the time during parenthood is normal, but so too is growing a partnership stronger than ever before.

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Not feeling as productive as you crave to be is normal, but so too is doing so many of the invisible things that make your home keep going and your children happy.

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Not finding it as easy as you thought it would be is normal, but so too is still going back to have more.

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Motherhood has different shades of normal.

There’s the normal that’s not talked about as much.

Then there’s the normal we all love to talk about.

Then there’s the in between invisible normal that so often gets forgotten.

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But it’s all normal.

And all normal in motherhood needs to be talked about.

All normal needs to be normalised.

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Because I’m normal.

You’re normal.

We are all normal.

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And wouldn’t it be so great if normal in all of it’s forms was just a bit more normal?

Because we’ve all been there, in all the normal, and in all shades of normal,

Haven’t we?