Contradictory advice

Advice mothers are given, in no particular order.

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Don’t lose yourself. Have something for yourself. It’s so important.

But also immerse yourself in it. Enjoy every moment. Blink and you’ll miss it.

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Work. Even if you don’t need to. Teach your children it’s important.

But don’t put your children into day care. You didn’t have children to have others care for them. Find your village.

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Stay home if you can. They are only so small for so long. Surely your career can wait.

But you need to keep them socialised. The home in order. And take care of yourself too. We managed. You are so blessed.

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Eat well. Exercise often. Do what fills your cup. Self-care isn’t selfish.

But also your children should come first. They should be your priority. They need you most right now.

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Look after your relationship. Make time for it. Your partner needs you too.

But first and foremost make sure you fit in family time. And that your partner has one on one time with your children too.

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Don’t give your children too much screen time. Processed food is no good for them. Don’t use a pacifier.

But survive. Do what you need to. These are some of the hardest years of your life.

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Cuddle your babies. They won’t always be in your bed. Enjoy it.

But encourage their independence. Don’t make a rod for your own back. You are in charge.

You are doing such a good job. It’s difficult. Keep going.

But don’t complain too much, you sound ungrateful.

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Mothers everywhere:

This is hard enough as it is.